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Awesome_Guy
09-07-2013, 02:58 PM
Hey guys, this topic has been swimming around in my head recently, and I find it quite comical that some guys use the fact that they have been "friendzoned" as an excuse on not to ask someone on a date, or you know, something on those lines. I started dating this girl recently, and before we were very good friends, best friends probably. My friends however thought I was "Friendzoned" and I naturally assumed so as well, but... I am dating her now xD This meant one of two things, I was either friendzoned and I "Escaped" or I was never to begin with and we actually both liked eachother :P But my friends still insist that I was friendzoned because she only seemed to act nothing more than a friend to me. Personally I think the "Friendzone" is some nonsense that guys use as an excuse, they either like you or they dont, I doubt they see you as an attractive guy... but you are such good friends they take you out of the equation. Meh, What do you guys think, and have any of you guys been friendzoned?

gdn001
09-07-2013, 03:28 PM
Ah yes, the so called "friend-zone". Based on some research and personal experiences (nothing bad), I have come to some conclusions:

- Despite the name, girls that friend-zone other guys are not actually their friends;
- Girls that truly want to stay friends won't friend-zone the guy. They will just say no;
- The girls that DO friend-zone guys use this for personal gain. They realize that he will do anything for her and use this as personal gain;
- Therefore, guys actually accept the friend-zone, by constantly attempting to impress the girl, to no avail;

I believe that most people misuse the term "friend-zone". Some say they got friend-zoned as soon as the girl calls him "friend". Others, because she refused to date him. But, in my opinion, the true friend-zone is when the girl sees the guy not as an actual friend, but as a footstool. And then mask it as being friends.

What to do:
- If the girl is direct and says no to you, she's most likely a friend;
- If the girl sees your displays of love, and pushes you back down instead of directly refusing, she's a friend-zoner;
- If you got rejected by a friendly girl, attempt to stay friends with her, or at least don't give her a bad impression;
- If you do get friend-zoned, forget her.

FreeAim
09-07-2013, 03:39 PM
From my point of view, the entire "friend-zone" is basically guys complaining for not getting. ahem, night-time company, even though they think they're nice to girls. They aren't really that nice. If they were, they'd be humble enough not to complain about it over the internet and they deserve to be "friend-zoned," which in this case basically means the girl simply refusing due to not liking the guy.

What GDN described is more commonly known as "keeping someone on the hook." What people think people mean with "friend-zone" is actually simple and can mean one of three things:

1.) The girl doesn't like guys at all.
2.) The girl thought the guy liked guys (and refuses due to confusion).
3.) The girl doesn't find herself to be of an acceptable age to the guy.

This is my point of view.

SnipySev
09-07-2013, 03:51 PM
I don't see what the big deal is. You aren't owed a relationship just because you're nice to someone, wether you're male or female.

Sure, some people doing the friendzoning are manipulative and take advantage of the feelings of the person being friendzoned... but some of the friendzoned people just can't take a hint. I think there are morons on both sides.

Ayneh
09-07-2013, 06:07 PM
Meh, What do you guys think, and have any of you guys been friendzoned?
That would mean I'd actually have to talk to another person, like, outside. That isn't going to happen.

FreeAim
09-07-2013, 06:48 PM
That would mean I'd actually have to talk to another person, like, outside. That isn't going to happen.

This.

Awesome_Guy
09-07-2013, 08:36 PM
Ah yes, the so called "friend-zone". Based on some research and personal experiences (nothing bad), I have come to some conclusions:

- Despite the name, girls that friend-zone other guys are not actually their friends;
- Girls that truly want to stay friends won't friend-zone the guy. They will just say no;
- The girls that DO friend-zone guys use this for personal gain. They realize that he will do anything for her and use this as personal gain;
- Therefore, guys actually accept the friend-zone, by constantly attempting to impress the girl, to no avail;

I believe that most people misuse the term "friend-zone". Some say they got friend-zoned as soon as the girl calls him "friend". Others, because she refused to date him. But, in my opinion, the true friend-zone is when the girl sees the guy not as an actual friend, but as a footstool. And then mask it as being friends.

What to do:
- If the girl is direct and says no to you, she's most likely a friend;
- If the girl sees your displays of love, and pushes you back down instead of directly refusing, she's a friend-zoner;
- If you got rejected by a friendly girl, attempt to stay friends with her, or at least don't give her a bad impression;
- If you do get friend-zoned, forget her.
Much of what you are describing seems fairly accurate, but the type of guys that get a hug of the girl they like and assumed that it didnt turn into something more a hug, Or as you said got referred to as a "Friend" or "Pal"- I mean when you are just friends at that moment she isnt exactly going to refer to you as the love of her life if you are just friends!. It always seems that it is the girl that is the bad guy (Gurl :P) in the scenario when really the guy could just like her but doesn't seem to have the motivation or desire that it would seem to actually tell them how they feel. But I dont feel like a guy should be punished for being nice to a girl, although he shouldnt expect anything in return either, yes a girl can take advantage of a guy sometimes.

Shooter0898
09-07-2013, 10:15 PM
I recall watching a Vsausce video on YouTube about this. Can't remember what was discussed in it but if someone can dig it up.

Awesome_Guy
09-07-2013, 10:26 PM
I recall watching a Vsausce video on YouTube about this. Can't remember what was discussed in it but if someone can dig it up.

http://youtu.be/IGK2KprU-To That's the science of the Friendzone

butter-kicker
09-07-2013, 10:43 PM
Just a guy with a girlfriend passing through. Don't mind me.

Any who I do believe that it is best to start out as friends with a woman you are attracted to because everyone is anxious about the subject of 'dating' and most women I know most likely find comfort in a male friend as they believe they are more trustworthy then male acquaintances. Just a little something I have learnt.

;)

RockSauron
09-08-2013, 12:07 AM
As a guy with a girlfriend who absolutely adores me, I just want to say...

... Nothing, I just wanted to brag. Ciao!

butter-kicker
09-08-2013, 12:11 AM
As a guy with a girlfriend who absolutely adores me, I just want to say...

... Nothing, I just wanted to brag. Ciao!

And by girlfriend he means a jar of peanuts he dressed in a bridal gown.

FreeAim
09-08-2013, 07:23 AM
Just a guy with a girlfriend passing through. Don't mind me.

Any who I do believe that it is best to start out as friends with a woman you are attracted to because everyone is anxious about the subject of 'dating' and most women I know most likely find comfort in a male friend as they believe they are more trustworthy then male acquaintances. Just a little something I have learnt.

;)
Then there are people who do the best they can to avoid all possible social contacts, yet people crowd around them and they're just like: "Ugh, okay, let's be friends, I hate you and I don't want to talk to you, so could you go away, my friends?" And then there are people like: "I would do anything to get the girl... Except talk to her."

Go and take your capitalist luxuries (in this matter, girlfriend) out of mah face!

Awesome_Guy
09-08-2013, 09:16 AM
Just a guy with a girlfriend passing through. Don't mind me.

Any who I do believe that it is best to start out as friends with a woman you are attracted to because everyone is anxious about the subject of 'dating' and most women I know most likely find comfort in a male friend as they believe they are more trustworthy then male acquaintances. Just a little something I have learnt.

;)
Like I said, I was best friends with my girlfriend ^_^ But with other girls I have liked it has been the case I have been too nervous to talk to them and so on- This was different as we had so much in common it made it so easy to talk! And if I asked her before we got to properly know eachother when I first started liking her it probably would of been a no :P

Ironface
09-08-2013, 12:08 PM
This topic has been moved to the friendzone.

Rash be the man who believes not in the "friendzone", I seen it more times than I can remember, it ain't a pretty sight, 'tis what's warped me into what you see before you, with a keyboard stained in tears and the insides - infinite and cold like the void, I ask of ye to avoid the realm of "friends" before it's too late. Now I must be off for a piano class, but beware.

FreeAim
09-08-2013, 03:37 PM
... with a keyboard stained in tears and the insides - infinite and cold like the void ...

I think friendzone stains your keyboard in an entirely different way.

butter-kicker
09-08-2013, 03:45 PM
I think friendzone stains your keyboard in an entirely different way.

Ew .

gdn001
09-08-2013, 05:34 PM
I think friendzone stains your keyboard in an entirely different way.
http://31.media.tumblr.com/e51106ac8cc7fbeb3818d4de5b1a5556/tumblr_moinloZTx01rk4sgfo1_400.gif

Oops this isn't the Mafia thread. ._.

flamingemu
09-08-2013, 05:36 PM
I don't understand the friendzone? Why can't people just be friends with a girl, does investing time in a friendship mean that the girl owes you something more? It just seems... possessive and childish to be honest.

theswweet
09-08-2013, 05:48 PM
Complaining about being friendzoned, is INCREDIBLY sexist - and I'm usually very lenient about remarks that might seem racy. It implies that you didn't really care about the girl; and that you just saw her as a piece of meat. What the hell, dude.

Ryan86me
09-08-2013, 08:17 PM
I think friendzone stains your keyboard in an entirely different way.
My god, you managed to gross out Butter. Hardly thought that was possible, props to you.

TheUltraDeino
09-08-2013, 08:29 PM
Well, luckily, I never been friendzoned
It helps to never have a lover in the first place

DominationMags
09-09-2013, 03:55 AM
http://img.ifcdn.com/images/4c03771c54570798210f9abd060013d96f2b30406565b94c23 717d03ac6690d1_1.jpg